LELEDS

Well everybody has heard about the book and the movie about 50 shades of grey. jesus, i admit i have read the trilogy, just for fun. But, most of the people that has read them think of themselves as "oh im such a submissive or such a dom, im into bdsm, oh yeah i love whips" but seriously, that book has nothing of bdsm in it, is just abuse, Mr. grey is not a true dom, he just like to hit women, really, he doesnt give comfort after sex. Honestly bdsm is about to enjoy your body with ur partner in a respectful way in which both agree what to do and if any of both individuals want to stop, they have to stop. Other wise is abuse.

The point i want to make is that this movie is going to mislead and misinform hundreds and thousands of young teens, and probably is not going to affect them all but to some is going to. They might think of themselves as doms or subs and they are not going to make things right, *not saying there's a right way, but they are going to miss the most important thing that is respect, this also can lead to traumatize teens if they try stuff in the movie in not a safe way. They are going to even hurt themselves. How? Imagine bondage with a guy they think is "great" and then they want to stop but because of this misinformation maybe the guy doesnt stop, and even if the girl wanted to have sex with the guy in the fist place, if she wanted him to stop and he didn't it becomes rape, and this can traumatize her.

But anyways, my opinion is not going to stop teens to watch this movie or try this things, im not saying they shouldnt, im saying if they want to try them, they shouldn't take 50 shades as a guide. CUZ IS NOT.

What's your opinion?

thanks for reading, and even if you didn't thanks anyways. c:

-Leleeeeds

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Have you ever seen a person and only have thought one word for them? “Slut, gay, fat, anorexic, ugly, weird, attention whore” those are called labels in a simple way to say it. A way to explain labels is a stereotype or a social standard the society that surrounds you thought and implemented on your brain while you were growing up. This stereotypes or social standards can be from “only girls use skirts”, to, “let´s kill a woman with rocks because she wore a short skirt”.
This lessons that the culture, society and family thought us, go into our unconscious, making them part of the way we think. They go really deep in to ourselves because, think of a kid as an sponge, it absorbs everything in their surrounding, even if we don´t remember those lessons, they are there.

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-Leleds

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Do you ever wonder how does people fall in love, or how does they make a friendship. I mean, like really analyze it. It´s really weird thing. I have a sort of obsession to observe people interact. I found it really interesting and fascinating. The whole interaction between humans.
For example friendship at the beginning its like, "hey, i like you for no logical reason, lets found more about what we have in common, so if i like it, we can hang more." Then you start hanging with that person, and you really don´t realize when they pass from a stranger or a known face to a friend. You just start trusting a person for no logical reason. But, then after a while, you know why they are your friends, but how did it started, that trusting part, or how your brain manage to say "yeah, that human is okay".

For falling in love, I think there's more a chemical explanation, like you get kinda "addicted" to someones pheromones, and you need more, every time, so you want to be with that person because of the chemical reaction your brain (neurotransmitters) has; I have read some articles that the "addiction" of the pheromones of the person you are in love it only last for 7 years. (obviously psychology affects this process too, you know guys, the way you develop your relationship) So this called "addiction" is what really love is, the chemical processes that your brain does. Also, the attractiveness of this person (doesn't need to be a model, it just have yo be attractive to you) also affects, because, if you like what you see (sexually) you release dopamine, endorphin, serotonin, and adrenaline. So your brain likes that, they make you happy in a sane level of release, so when you don't see your beloved one, your brain asks for more of those neurotransmitters, so you see him/her and your brain get in that "high" level again, and that's how the addiction is developed. This neurotransmitters almost do everything for you to be a functional person, mental diseases are caused because of the lack or malfunctioning of this neurotransmitters. But, going back to the main subject, falling in love is a chemical process, but staying like hooked, of whatever you wanna call it, it more about how the relationship develops. There´s also a weird thing about relationships, that i haven´t been able to answer to myself, and is that:

Can you be able to be in love with someone without that chemical process in your brain?


Thanks for reading; even if you didn't, thanks. c:

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